In every relationship conflict will arise. No one has any intention of fighting, yelling or speaking loudly. These things happen due to both party’s actions and reactions. No one is right and no one is wrong. We each just have a need to be heard and understood.
In every relationship we must understand that we are dealing with someone like our self. We all carry the same emotions but just express them in different degrees. Reactive behaviours or triggers are deep rooted feelings that arise during a relationship conflict. These feelings are rooted in our past experiences. They are your personal childhood programming.
Some people choose the traditional route of marriage while others prefer to live together before getting married. It really doesn’t matter which comes first. The excitement of living together almost always obscures the red flags many of us experience prior to committing but choose to ignore.
Theses red flags are the moments when you see a side to your partner, their family, or their friends that make you uneasy. Red flags can also include your friends and family’s concerns regarding the relationship.
No union should be entered into lightly. The choice to share your life with someone should not be based on a fantasy of a perfect life together or what Society dictates you should do. Any union should be based on the authenticity of each partner. How honest are you with your partner?
Sex and Intimacy are neither one nor the same.
Sex is the physical act of intercourse. It is an external act often driven by an internal emotion. Since emotions are created by our mental state, a mind of clarity is essential. Sex builds upon a euphoric feeling resulting in an orgasm that lasts only minutes. Although there are claims to the contrary it has yet to be proven that any orgasm lasted longer than 5 minutes.
After sex some feel unfulfilled and continue to seek out fulfillment, while others feel contented until the urge hits them again. Sex is easily defined by its external actions.